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How To Be Your Own Role Model

By: Emily Totura
Oct 16, 2020 • 7 min read

How To Be Your Own Role Model

Wherever you are in your life, you probably have several people you look up to and consider role models. These people can be family members, celebrities, friends, or anyone! They have similar mindsets and goals, and looking up to them can help guide and teach us. When we see people around us who have accomplished goals similar to our aspirations, we strive to be like them. Guess what, you can be your own role model! If you want others to see you as a role model, you must first see it in yourself. When you trust and inspire yourself, you can do the same for others! In this blog, we’ll share 10 of our tips on how to become your own role model.

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1. Have confidence and trust yourself

It’s not an easy journey, but one of the most important steps in becoming your own role model is having confidence in yourself. You’re not perfect, but you need to trust yourself to obtain all of your goals. Confidence allows you to push yourself in all aspects of your life. Start small, and focus on aspects of your life that you’re passionate about. To overcome your fears and to become the best version of you, you need confidence!

2. Set goals

Becoming a leader won’t happen overnight, so it’s important to set goals for yourself. These can be small goals like creating a daily to-do list or larger goals like getting a promotion at work. Either way, you should write down this list and keep it at your desk, or somewhere where you’ll be able to see them every day. If lists seem boring, try a vision board! Print out quotes, images, or anything that inspires you to achieve these goals. Goal-setting can be hard, so break it down. Celebrate any goals you accomplish, and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t achieve it right away or if it takes time. When you accomplish these goals, you will not only feel more confident and motivated, but it will also encourage those around you to set goals and to meet their full potential.

your own role model

3. Watch your attitude

You know the saying, you can’t control others, but you can control your reaction, and it’s a popular saying for a reason! Life doesn’t always go smoothly, and there will always be bumps in the road that you must overcome. Learn how to control your emotions and work through any problems that come your way. No one likes to be around someone negative. So, stay calm, and others will respect you. This takes practice, so be patient, and make sure to reflect on how you handle each one of those tough decisions.

your own role model

4. Don’t stop learning

Even if you’re passionate about a subject or worked somewhere for years, you’ll never know everything. In all of your experiences, you should have the mindset of learning. Take classes, read, and talk to experts. This will help you educate others, and it will also open more doors filled with more opportunities. You might discover new passions, meet other people, or develop new skills.

5. Challenge yourself

Rather than comparing yourself to others, focus on you—you are your own biggest competitor! Don’t get stuck in a rut of your daily routine, and instead, challenge yourself to do the things you didn’t think you could do or had time for. Take that class or run that marathon, and you’ll be surprised at how much you can do.

your own role model

6. Don’t let setbacks discourage you

You’ll inevitably encounter some failures—we all do, but it’s all about your perspective! Use these moments as a chance to learn. What can you do differently? What can you improve upon? Look at any problems as a chance to learn and to better yourself.

7. Take accountability

We all make mistakes, big and small. However, rather than making excuses, own up to them and use it to help you grow. Even if you feel that you aren’t in the wrong, it’s still important to take a step back to see what you could have done differently and what you can do in the future to avoid a similar situation. Role models are honest, so hold yourself to that standard.

your own role model

8. Be the change you want to see

Along with taking accountability, you are also responsible for making any changes that you need. Whether it’s getting into a better routine to be productive or having that serious talk with your boss, it’s important to welcome change. This can be uncomfortable, but make a conscious effort to grow in all aspects of your life. If there’s something around you that you don’t like, do something about it. Share your concerns with others, and remember, it gets easier with time and practice!

9. Be your true, authentic self

It’s easy to feel like you have to conform to others’ expectations, whether it’s in school, work, or life in general. But, if you aren’t yourself, you’re setting yourself back! You’re unique, and that’s a great thing! You don’t have to act a certain way to impress others around you. When you’re genuine and sincere, the people around you will respect you, and they’ll also start to look up to you. You’ll also start to respect yourself more!

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10. Share your accomplishments

Many people don’t like to share their successes because they don’t want to brag and come off as self-centered, but when you’re proud of something, let others know. Whether you post it on social media or call your friends, let it be known. This will not only encourage yourself to continue on this journey of success, but you’ll start to inspire others to do the same.


You are your number one supporter, and being your own role model isn’t as hard as it seems. Set small goals for yourself and work on your personal growth, and you’ll see this positively reflected in how you feel and view yourself. Before you know it, you’ll be a role model for others!

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