Professional Development

How To Become The Mentor Your Younger Self Always Needed 

By: Mariah Rogers
Nov 23, 2020 • 6 min read

How To Become The Mentor Your Younger Self Always Needed

It might sound cocky at first, but there are ways in which you can become a mentor for someone else. Typically, this happens with minimal effort. The mentee typically seeks their own mentor to look up to, learn from, and connect with. However, it is very possible to become a role model and friend to others in your workplace, volunteer group, or family. Think back to when you were younger. You likely had someone you modeled certain aspects of your life after, and maybe you still do to this day! Having a mentor is something truly unique and special. It is a bond like no other. So, here is how to become the mentor your younger self always needed!

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Be Consistent

The process of becoming a mentor is not only beneficial for your mentee but also for yourself. To be someone others look up to, you must be consistent in all aspects of your life. Show up on time every day, continuously improve your best practices, and keep being true to yourself. These are all aspects that a younger mentee will find motivational and inspiring. Continue to show up for yourself and those around you. This is a key part of being an exceptional role model.

Ways to practice consistency:

  • Show up to shifts, meetings, lunch & coffee on-time and prepared.
  • Give consistent feedback and praise when appropriate.
  • Come to work looking presentable every single day.
  • Always be ready to contribute to brainstorming sessions/other conversations.

Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help 

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. This shows confidence, self-respect, and commitment to getting the job done right! Plus, you will help to create an environment that is healthy when you normalize the ability to seek assistance when needed. Your mentee will see that you are dedicated to seeing the team succeed and that you are willing to offer guidance in a non-demeaning way. Not only will this identify you as a mentor, but you will be recognized as a team leader, too.

When to ask for help:

  • If you have tried to complete the task in multiple ways.
  • Try using a different perspective.
  • Wait a day and try again.
  • Communicate with teammates who can help you problem-solve. 

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Check-in Often

When becoming a mentor for others, it is important to check-in regularly. Becoming distant can make you seem unapproachable or unwilling to be recognized as a mentor. So, make sure to always ask mentees about their weekends, special events, or updates on how a challenging project is going. Make it a regular occurrence and even offer to get lunch or coffee and catch up. It is the little things that truly show you care.

Show you care:

  • Remember specific events and details.
  • Ask about them before talking about yourself.
  • Include everyone in lunch and coffee events.
  • Make an effort to congratulate and celebrate others achievements.

Hold Yourself Accountable 

Once you’ve set these high standards for yourself, make it happen! Holding yourself accountable will show your mentee how to be self-motivated and concentrate on personal success. If you miss the mark, own up to it. This will show a sense of maturity that everyone can learn from, not just your mentee.

Holding yourself accountable:

  • Physically write down your goals.
  • Celebrate yourself once you achieve milestones.
  • Aim high. Always.
  • Set both long-term and short-term goals.

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Seek Feedback 

Seeking feedback is another essential component of becoming a mentor. Just because you are the role model doesn’t mean you know it all! Find out ways in which you can improve and areas of weakness. This will help you gain perspective and see how you can continue to grow as a leader and mentor. This will also show that you are constantly seeking to improve yourself and grow.

Seek feedback by:

  • Asking others to reflect on your performance.
  • Ask yourself what could have gone better.
  • Make regular meetings with your supervisor or management team.
  • Be patient and kind when asking for a critique on a project.
  • Offer to give feedback in return. This is a two-way street!

It is also important to show that you can handle feedback with grace and professionalism. Don’t argue the criticism you receive. Instead, take each point with a grain of salt.

Handle feedback with grace:

  • Always end the feedback session by saying thank you, and follow up with another appreciative note later on.
  • Think about the feedback you are receiving from different perspectives.
  • Try to turn your ego off, no matter how hard it is to do.
  • Be patient and do not interrupt as someone explains their point of view. Allow them to finish their critique before you speak.
  • Do not rebuttal their points at the time of feedback.

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Be Sincere 

When becoming a mentor, always remember to be sincere. Avoid being so overly confident that you come off as only trying to become a mentor to gain superiority. Be honest and sincere when others are watching, as well as when they aren’t. How you work in private reflects who you are as an employee. Be trustworthy, honest, and hard-working every minute that you’re on the clock.

Be genuine in your work when no one is watching by:

  • Always following procedures implemented by your management team.
  • Meeting expectations even if you are the only one working.
  • Giving excellent customer service at all times.
  • Treat the store and products with extreme care and respect.
  • Be kind and considerate of other employees and their belongings.

What do you look for in a mentor? Let us know on social media!

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